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Courage to Commit

I went to a wedding this last weekend.  I love weddings!  Every time I hear wedding vows, it brings tears to my eyes.  I think the words are so beautiful. 

Imagine…we stand up and say “YES!” to a lifetime commitment to LOVE.  We promise unconditional love to another person.  As imperfect people, this is a leap of faith.  This kind of commitment takes courage. 

The priest at the wedding this weekend said, “We have no idea what people, events, and circumstances will define this union.”  Isn’t that true? We can not predict what will happen but we are hopeful, expectant, and full of faith (or are we just clueless?).  We don’t know what our story will be and that’s the beauty of it.  That’s the romance.  The two of us against the world!

My husband and I were young when we got married.  Did we know what we were doing?  Absolutely not!  That’s the beauty of being young and brave (or clueless) and invincible.  I remember the priest telling us in no uncertain terms that we were committing to love each other unconditionally for the rest of our lives.  He said it really slow, Unnconnditionnalllly (dramatic pause)…for the resssssssssssttttttttt of your liiiives.

At the wedding, I sat next to a couple that was talking about having a baby.  They were wondering…should they, shouldn’t they, how will their lives change? I have found that if we think about things too much, we all become hesitant, fearful, and unsure.  I’m not recommending we throw caution to the wind and live life without thinking but I know that if I think too much about something, I can have “paralysis from over analysis”. 

I found a quote on a Starbucks cup (Inspiration is everywhere!) that speaks to this.  The quote is not attributed to anyone but this person sure was wise.

The irony of commitment is that it’s deeply liberating – in work, in play, in love.  The act frees you from the tyranny of your internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around as rational hesitation.  To commit is to remove your head as the barrier to your life.

Don’t you love this? We do dress up our fear, don’t we?  We call ourselves “realistic” or “cautious” or “practical” when often, we are just plain scared.  Sometimes we need to say “Yes!” first and then figure out how to make it all work. 

Our head is often a barrier to our lives.  Our little mind tells us to hesitate and fear.  But if we listen to our heart…well, that’s a different story. 

 

Just ASK

You know when you have those experiences that seem surreal?  When you are looking at something and you feel like God is there?  Or you hear something and you get chills?  What about when someone tells you something and you start to cry with empathy? 

This is the Holy Spirit.  I know some of you right now are thinking, “Oh boy, here we go, I knew she was crazy!” 

But seriously, let’s think about this.  I believe God has a specific and individual purpose for each of us.  I believe we have our own gifts and talents and we were born for this time and place to manifest our higher calling.  But when we get here, we forget where we came from, we get caught up in things and stuff and reality TV.  We are distracted.  We are so distracted, in fact, that when someone mentions the Holy Spirit, we want to laugh or turn away because we have removed ourselves completely from our origin and our purpose.

Now maybe it’s the term, “Holy Spirit” that scares you.  I remember they used to call it, the “Holy Ghost”.  That’s really scary.  Some people call it “energy”, “karma”, “the universe”, “divine intervention”.  Regardless of name, this “something” exists.  Are you with me? 

 If you are not “with me” and you are still thinking I’m completely nuts, pay very close attention for awhile and I’m sure you’ll have a similar experience.  Now you may have a lot of unlearning to do.  We all have to let go to let God in.  We have to literally empty ourselves to make room for God. 

I know stillness is difficult but awareness can be fun.  Often, it’s just a matter of changing our minds about something.  For instance, today, if you say something like this, “Okay God, I’m ready for you to show me your presence.  I want to experience you.”  Or you could say something like, “Okay God, this lady is crazy but I’m going to humor her and try this – show me your presence today.” Either way is fine.  Actually, any way you ask is fine.  Just ask. 

 Remember, ASK stands for Ask, Seek, Knock. 

 Ask and you will receive;

seek and you will find;

knock and the door will be opened to you.

                                                                                     -Luke 11:9

 And when the door opens, TRUST and walk through it.  Make sure you open your eyes so you can see.  You won’t want to miss it.

 01 Whenever God Shines His Light-click here for a great song by Van Morrison

Meet me at the table

“I’m ready to go home and back to school where we don’t see each other 24/7 but only at dinner.” 

This is what my 12 year old daughter said to me about 5 days into our Orlando trip.  Who can blame her?  We had been to Disney World (Magic Kingdom, Epcot and Hollywood Studios).  We had also been to Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure and Aquatica and Wet and Wild.  This was the whirlwind tour of Orlando led by my husband who had a plan to get us on every thrill ride within 30 miles.  We were exhausted. 

Her statement made me chuckle…isn’t that the truth of relationships?  I love you but 24/7 is a little much.  This is why many happy marriages thrive because of separate his and her bathrooms.  This is why we redid our basement.  We wanted the kids to have a place to go so we could be alone upstairs.  Yes, we love them but too much togetherness can often just be too much. 

I did love that she recognized we see each other at dinner.  I have tried to make dinner time family time in our house.  I don’t always succeed but most nights, we have dinner together.  It may be hot dogs or macaroni and cheese but we are together.  The fact that she acknowledged dinner time as together time says many things to me as a mom…she relies on that time, she appreciates that time, she knows that whatever else is going on, she can count on dinner with the family. 

All of this makes me think of our relationship with Jesus.  Often, we are too busy or too tired to be with Jesus 24/7.  We find it difficult to constantly be in a state of prayer or thanksgiving.  We can’t read the Bible all the time.  Our faith is important to us but as my husband put it not so lightly, “It can’t be JC 24/7!”  We find pious people who constantly talk about their faith tiresome and judgmental.  We want to have some fun!

My daughter knows that she can have access to her family when she wants us or needs us.  We will always be there for her.  As her parents, my husband and I see this as a blessing.  She can go out into the world to experience life and she will always have a home, a place to feel safe and regroup and know love.  Our heavenly Father must want us to know this too, we are never alone… Jesus is waiting for us at the table.