Be Still and Know

How do we AWAKEN?  How do we get to awareness?  How do we uncover who we really are? 

We walk around with lots of “mind chatter”.  We look outside of ourselves for fulfillment.  We fill our ears with music and talk and TV and internet and news.  Even when there is no external noise, there is noise in our minds.  We think of our “to do” lists; our worries, our fears, thoughts of the past, regrets, hopes for the future.  We are always trying to get somewhere, do something.  People talk about how busy they are – you don’t know if they are bragging or complaining.  It’s as if “being busy” is what we strive for, it’s a badge of honor…look at me, I’m important, I’m busy.

Actually, to get to who we really are, we need to be still…to quiet the “mind chatter”.  When we bring awareness to this issue of busyness and clutter of the mind, we start to have the ability to change it.  We witness it and we realize we are not our thoughts.  We are the WITNESS to our thoughts.  Therefore, we are something other than our thoughts.  This is where it gets interesting.  We are our “spirit” or our “soul” – we are separate from our thoughts.  We are wise and eternal.  This is where we find peace, resting in who we REALLY are.  To get to this place of stillness can be difficult but it is not impossible.

Jesus says, “Be still, and know that I am God.”  Can we be still?  Can we rest in His assurance that all is well?  Can we relinquish control?   Just for today, even if just for a few minutes, let’s try to be still. 

Let’s do what the Beatles tell us to do and just “Let it be”. 

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Men – Read this!

I saw one of my friends today and he said he heard I started a blog and he asked me if it is just for women.  I told him absolutely not!!! He said his wife said it was mostly for women.  As I read over my posts, I can see where he may think that, but that is not my intention.  This blog is for everyone.  So, here’s one for the boys.  By the way, “Let’s hear it for the boys!”  (Are you thinking of Footloose right now?)

Here’s what I want to say to men.  You are not your wallet.  Your self worth is not based on your income and your bank account.  You matter.  You are important and special and gosh darnit, people like you! 

My husband is a stock broker.  This is not easy.  (For him or me.)  These last couple years have been a roller coaster of emotion.  We have known many in the business (and in other lines of work) that have lost their jobs or had a heart attack or become sick because of stress.  The very sad truth is that we have known some men who have committed suicide because of the financial stress.  This, to me, is the ultimate sadness.  It is heart breaking. 

Here’s what I believe has happened.  Our sons are born and we love them.  They are pure and good and light and love.  Then we teach them (with all good intentions) that they have to be the smartest, the strongest, the toughest, and this is the most important —wait for it—the best at every sport they try.  If they are not these things, they are losers. 

Now, I know a lot of you women out there are saying, “That’s not what I did, I nurtured my son, I honored his tears.”  Even if you did, or tried to, your son got the message above.  He saw who ruled the playground, who was captain of the team, who got into the good school, who got the girls.  There is a pecking order and men struggle their whole lives to get to the top. 

Some women do this too but for the most part, women are taught that competition is bad.  Our role is to be “nice”.  We play small to fit in.  Men are taught to compete, to fight, to win.  When they lose they are taught to “take it like a man”.  I’ll admit, just tonight while a bunch of kids were playing soccer, my son was crying and I told him to “man up” or he can’t play.  (That was not my best parenting moment.)

And now, I want to take it back.  I want to tell my son, I’m sorry if I have perpetuated the ambition mentality in your life.  I accept you fully for who you are and I look forward to watching God’s plan unfold in your life.  I will honor you and your tears and your fears.  I will celebrate you.  (Oh my goodness, I sound like Dr. Phil but I mean it!)

And men, here it is…a note from women to you (ladies, I’ve taken the liberty of speaking for you).  This message must be heard LOUD and CLEAR.  You are NOT YOUR WALLET.  You are a vital part of our lives and this world and we love you.  We do not mind if we have to move to a smaller house or a different neighborhood or if we have to cut back on some material things.  YOU are most important.  YOU… meaning your heart and your soul and your mind.  Your love for us is what we want, not your money.  PLEASE do not miss this point.  We can live without things…we do not want to live without you.  You have been sold a bill of goods.  You have been sold a lie.  It is not important what you do, it is important who you are.  Rest assured- you are more than your wallet. 

I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty.  I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.  I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

                                                                               -Phillipians 4:12-13

Do you believe me?

Do you believe me?  Do you know that you embody the divine?  Do you think God is in you?  Have you ever been told that you were created in love for love by a creator that will always love you?  (That’s a LOT of love!) If you have never been told that, let me have the honor of being the first one to tell you that it’s true.  YOU ARE LOVED!

 We all came from the same place.  I mean, we all have different backgrounds and upbringings but we all have the same SOURCE.  We all come from an eternal, all knowing, loving creator. 

 I remember when I learned the words, OMNISCIENT, OMNIPOTENT and OMNIPRESENT…All knowing and all powerful and always present.  I don’t know about you but I feel relieved knowing that God is all of those things.  That means I don’t have to be. (As if I ever could be!)

 Last night I went out with some friends for a birthday celebration.  My husband asked me which train we were taking home and did I need him to pick me up at the train, etc. (he’s a planner).  I said, I don’t know, (my responsible friend) made the plans and I haven’t worried about it because I fully trust her to have it all figured out for me.  When we got there, (my responsible friend) had not checked the schedule, did not make reservations, and had no idea what time we were coming home.  She said she decided to just “go with the flow”.  I said, “What!?!? That’s my role, not yours!” 

 It makes you think…in a bigger sense, can I just show up?  Do I need to check on all the details?  Can I afford to just “go with the flow”?  Who is in charge here?  Will it all be okay?

 The answer is “YES!” (I like to say that word as much as I can)  It’s true that sometimes you need to plan and you always need to pay attention but ultimately, you are not in charge.  You are not omniscient, omnipotent, or omnipresent (I’m sorry to inform you) but your creator is and yes, it will all be okay.