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New Year’s Resolutions

Oh Boy! It’s almost the New Year. 

We can make a New Start.

It’s time for New Year’s Resolutions!

I always feel a little silly making New Year’s Resolutions.  I plan to work out more.  I plan to eat healthy foods.  It seems cliché and kind of depressing to continually make the same New Year’s Resolutions.  I should have already made those changes, right?

I’ll start out strong.  I’ll be disciplined and healthy and I’ll lose the 5 pounds I gained during the holidays.  Then I’ll get cocky.  I’ll start slipping and relaxing and I’ll find myself here again next year, making the same resolutions.  Usually writing out my intentions for the New year with a chocolate chip cookie in one hand and coffee cake crumbs on my pajamas that I’m still wearing at noon. 

I’m bored with the whole thing.

I’ve decided my resolutions this year will be more meaningful. 

The problem with my New Year’s Resolutions is that I make them so lofty.  Not only will I try to eat less junk, I’ll look like Jillian Michaels by spring break!  Not only will I eat healthy, I’ll buy all the healthy cook books and become an expert at making healthy meals for my family.  (This is from a girl who burns toast.  At my wedding shower, I received a couple of oven gloves and I thought they were for gardening.  It’s sad when all the moms and grandmas and aunts of your fiancée are laughing at you and feeling sorry for your husband to be.  Things have not changed much.  We all have different gifts…)

This year, I plan to make one resolution and here it is.  I plan to love more.

That’s right.  I plan to LOVE MORE.  LOVE in all of its forms.  I plan to love my husband more, love my friends more, love my kids more, love my family more, love my co-workers more, love my home more, love my job more, love God more, love the world more, love the people I disagree with, and the list goes on.  

There will be one question I will ask.  Am I acting out of love?  If not, I will try again. 

I will not kid myself into believing this will be accomplished this month or even this year.  This is a resolution I don’t mind re-making every year.  There is always a chance to love more.  It benefits everyone and isn’t all about me.  I’ll be so busy loving everyone and everything (Am I sounding lofty?), I won’t have time to worry that my jeans are a little snug.  Hopefully I’ll be so filled with love, no one will notice.  They’ll be looking at my smile. 

Every act of love is a work of peace no matter how small.
-Blessed Mother Teresa

Take a Step

Sometimes it’s hard to say “yes”. 

Have you ever felt like you were stuck?  I have a friend who says he wishes he could believe in God but he’s just not “feeling it”.  He says he needs a sign. 

I have another friend who is considering her faith in God and realizes she doesn’t know what to believe.  There are things about faith and God and organized religion that don’t sit well with her. 

 Sometimes it’s easier to say “no”. 

 If you are in that place of being not sure if you believe, think of what you do believe.  Start with the positive.  Think of the “yes” things.  And then take a step to learn more.  It’s not like one day everything about God is going to be crystal clear and you are going to believe it wholeheartedly forever.  It’s a process.  There are times of challenge for even the most faithful among us.  Remember the controversy over Mother Theresa’s book when we found out that there were times she had doubts and fears?

I think what’s so frustrating is that we are trying to figure God out.  (As if we ever could.)   We are using human terms to try to understand an infinite God. 

We simply cannot do it. 

So, of course we are stuck.  Of course some things don’t sit well with us.  I have another friend who is just completely turned off by religion because of some things Christians have said to her over the years.  There have been times that has happened to me too.  A person says something that offends me and so I get mad at God.  Does that make sense? 

 What people say about God does not define God. 

 As Christians, we try to get it right when we talk about God and Jesus and Creation and Salvation and Forgiveness and Redemption and Reconciliation and Grace.  (That’s a tall order!) We try to “make disciples of nations” and often, we fail.  Sometimes, we offend.  I admit there are times when I’ve tried to comfort someone and my words have come off trite.  My friend says there is “nothing worse than false piety”.  But all of these things speak of human frailty and have nothing to do with God’s majesty. 

Haven’t you ever had a friend that you love and you hear someone else describe him and what they say is not at all what you think of that person?    I don’t like it when I’m about to meet someone new and another person starts to tell me all about the person I’m going to meet.  I would rather not know anything going in.  I’d like a clean slate.  I’ll make up my own mind about this person when I get to know her. 

It’s the same with God.  We have to know God personally and to do that we have to say “yes”.  We have to take a baby step that will lead to another baby step and then we will forge a path.  A path that is ours alone, a path that is new and unique and authentic…a path that feels right and even when it curves and bends, we adapt and stick with it because we can feel that we are  headed home. 

What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step.
C. S. Lewis