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Nothing Good Gets Away

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I just discovered this letter. It took my breath away. I had to share.

John Steinbeck wrote it to his son.  His son was at boarding school and had written to his father to tell him he was falling in love.

This is so beautiful and tender and true.

It brings tears to my eyes because I had a father that wrote letters to me.  My dad wrote me once a week when I was in college…his beautiful handwriting on thick paper folded neatly into a matching envelope.  Always addressed, “Dearest Susan” and always ending with, “Love, Your Father”. He was gentle and kind. I miss him.  I’m so grateful he was mine.

All of this has me thinking about the things we tell our kids.  The advice we give and the way we shape their views through our responses.  Oh Lord I pray for the right words to tell my kids. I hope that I have offered (and will offer!) words that will give hope and encourage.

Here’s the letter.  Enjoy.

New York

November 10, 1958

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First—if you are in love—that’s a good thing—that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second—There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind.
The other is an outpouring of everything good in you—of kindness and consideration and respect—not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable.

The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply—of course it isn’t puppy love.

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it—and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone—there is no possible harm in saying so—only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another—but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens—The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.

Love,

Fa

I know. Take a moment. Reread. NOTHING GOOD GETS AWAY.

I’d love to read your comments. What advice did your parents give you that encouraged you?

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Uncool

There has been lots of talk about Phillip Seymour Hoffman since his death.

I love movies and he was so good in every movie but I have to say my favorite character he played is Lester Bangs in Almost Famous.


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 My favorite line from him in that movie:  The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what we share with someone else when we’re uncool.

Amen.

I want to be uncool with you.

I want laugh so hard 7Up comes out my nose. I want to sing at the top of my lungs and not know the words.  I want it to be okay to have food in my teeth. I want to give awkward hugs.  I want to talk about when I was in 5th grade and saw Grease and pretended I was Sandy all the time and sang into my hairbrush.  And then I want to sing into my hairbrush.  I want to show up to a party not looking like everyone else and have you tell me I’m beautiful.  I want to say no to the big party and yes to Jammie’s and scrabble.  I want to talk about books and how I hope to write one. I want to look into your eyes when you tell me I should write one.  I want to eat all the M & Ms and most of the pizza and watch The Notebook and ugly cry. I want to tell you I’m not sure I can do it even though I pretend to be full of confidence. I want to not pretend.  I want to let my guard down. I want to be uncool.  And I want you to love me anyway.

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