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Podcast 21: Hope and Healing After Pornography Addiction – Tina Harris shares her story

 

It’s not easy to share our most personal, difficult struggles.  But that’s exactly what Tina Harris does here on the podcast.  She opens up about her marriage and her husband’s addiction to pornography.  Their story is one of faith and courage and hope and healing.  She shares her story at women’s conferences and has written a book, “Peace Beyond the Tears: Hope after Sexual Betrayal”. You can order her book at http://tinarharris.weebly.com.

Tina is a fierce friend and dedicated prayer warrior.  She is the mother of 6 beautiful daughters and has been married to her husband for 25 years! She is a Certified Christian Counselor and a Master Level Certified Yoga Therapist.

While this is not an easy topic, Tina hopes by sharing her story, other women will know they are not alone. We are so grateful to her for her willingness to share and to her husband for encouraging her to do so.  God is the God of restoration and healing and we get to witness His power and grace through their story!

Tina’s favorite Scripture is Psalm 30:11 “You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing. You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy.”

If you have struggled in this area or you know someone who has, please encourage them to listen in.  If not, we hope that this conversation will give you insight and understanding for those who are affected by pornography addiction.

Please pray for Tina as she and two daughters head out on March 4th for a mission trip in the Dominican Republic.  You can find more information on her website listed above.

 

Stones and Mercy

 

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Last week as I was planning Holy Yoga I really had some stuff hanging heavy on my heart.  God kept telling me to talk about gossip and slander and how powerful our words can be.  I brought this up to my Holy Yoga class and we all started to share.  I was not the only one feeling heavily burdened by the sinful nature of gossip.

This was our verse from John 8:1-11

But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.

 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group  and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery.  In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him.

But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there.  Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

“No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”

I LOVE THIS PASSAGE.

There is one line that stood out to me this time.  It screamed at me today, “look here! see me!”  It’s near the end and it says, “until only Jesus was left“.

If you feel led, go ahead and read it again and pay special attention to that line.

Because here’s the thing.  All of those people condemning us will go away.  All those people judging will move on to judge another or maybe they will see their ways and stop or maybe they will continue to judge.  Maybe they will face their own sin and be judged by others.  It doesn’t matter. In the end, only Jesus will be left.

Jesus…full of grace and mercy.

©2014 Sue Bidstrup, Great Big YES™ All Rights Reserved

 

Drifting

Sometimes I forget who I am and I need to be reminded.  This is my top ten list of things I want to remember.   

  1. Faith – Faith in Jesus, faith that it is “as it should be” and faith in me. 
  2. Love – As in, don’t just talk about it, do it.  Love is a verb.
  3. Gratitude – We must be grateful for what is because “what is” is more than enough.  We are blessed. 
  4. Joy – It’s a choice every day.  You do not need to go around smiling and being outwardly “happy” all the time but you must choose to live in joy.  You have the power to do that and living in Joy changes everything. (Happiness is fleeting but joy in your heart is everlasting.)
  5. Stillness – There is something beyond the noise.  There is something beyond the neighborhood, the house, the cars, the job, the parties, the friends, the schools, the games, the committees, the media, the politics, the church, the clothes, the work out, the diet, the internet, the grades, the texting, Facebook, the stuff.  There is something bigger and better.  The only way to get there is through stillness.  Find a place that is still and go there.  It takes work but it’s worth it.  In the stillness you will meet yourself again. 
  6. Acceptance –  Give yourself a break.  No one is perfect.  No one can hold it together all the time.  It’s not real and it’s not fun.  Nobody wants to be around you when you are so wound up.  You don’t even want to be around you.
  7. Awareness – Check in with yourself.  When you feel uncomfortable in your skin, take a look at it.  Think about it, get still and address it.  Why are you uncomfortable?  Have you gotten away from your true self?  Make a list of what you believe in.  Put it on the fridge…carry it in your purse.  Most of all carry it in your heart. 
  8. Laughter – It is medicine for your soul.  Don’t stop laughing…especially at yourself. 
  9. Look people in the eye – Engage, care, pay attention to other people.  Don’t talk so much.  Get out of your head. Other people have stories and struggles and need an ear too.  Get over yourself.
  10. Surround yourself with people who will remind you who you are if you forget.  These should be people who are not afraid to stop you mid-sentence and say, “What the ?#!?# are you talking about?” 

My friend shared an illustration with me about how it feels when you forget who you are.  She said it’s like when you are on a raft in the ocean and you are in front of your towels and all the people you know.  Then you start drifting and you don’t realize it.  You are moving along comfortably, not worrying about your towels or your people.  When you look up again, you are way down the ocean, looking at a bunch of things you don’t recognize thinking, “How did this happen?”

Anchor yourself.  If you drift and you hear a voice calling you back, listen.  It’s usually God saying, “Child, you are lost.  Come back.”  Follow His voice.  He is your anchor.  He will pull you back to safety…again and again.

 

©2011 Sue Bidstrup, Great Big Yes™ All Rights Reserved