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Letter to My Daughter on Her First Day of High School

This post originally appeared on the blog in 2012 when my oldest daughter started high school. This year my younger daughter starts her freshman year. I’m reposting because  I’d say the same things to her. Of course I would say some different things too.  Because she is different.  And now, so am I. But as I read this again I realized the things we hope and pray for for our kids never really change. We moved to Texas 5 days ago from a lifetime in Illinois so my second daughter is facing some unique challenges. But here’s the thing…Places change, people change, years go by…but a mom always wants these things for her kids…so here’s to this year! And to Mom’s everywhere sending their kids off…blessings to all!

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I woke up this morning thinking “Where did the time go?”

I remember the day you were born. Well, actually, I’ll be honest, it’s a blur. After being induced and then going through 24 hours of labor, I was exhausted. And then upon seeing you, I was exhilarated… and scared…and overwhelmed. I felt a keen sense of “everything is different now”. I felt blessed and terrified.

I realize now, that’s what parenting feels like. You alternate between feeling blessed and terrified.

And on your first day of high school, that describes my emotional state.

First, I want to thank you. You have taught me so much. I am certain now that God uses children to shape and form and teach us. You have taught me and you continue to do so. I am humbled and honored to be your mom.

As you enter those halls filled with thousands of other high schoolers there are some things I want you to know. Since you act mortified when I try to sit you down to “talk”, I figured I’d write instead and you can read it when you want to. Plus, I don’t have time to put you in the car and drive around which seems to be the only place we can have a meaningful conversation.

Here’s what I want you to know.

There are days that will be fun and exciting and days that will really stink. And this is okay. It is all part of growing up and becoming who you are meant to be. We cannot enjoy the mountaintop without the climb.

If you are going through tough times, remember, there is always hope. There is a rainbow waiting for you at the end of the storm. Always have faith.

Whatever is happening to you, matters to me and dad and it matters to God. Talk to us. You are never alone.

Sometimes people are nice and sometimes they are mean. This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Stay nice.

Boys that are cute on the outside aren’t always so cute on the inside. Trust your instincts. Character matters. If you feel something’s not right, it’s not. Go with your gut.

Drugs are bad. I say it every day and I know you are rolling your eyes right now but I’m serious. Don’t even try them. Say no. Say it again. Say it louder. You are precious and your body and mind and soul will be destroyed by drugs. Don’t even start. Don’t even try. If you see them in the room, leave. This cannot be emphasized enough. I don’t care if you need to blame me and make up outlandish excuses to get out of there – leave…run. On that note, anyone who offers you drugs is not your friend. End of story.

There will be all kinds of people at high school. This will give you a glimpse of what the world feels like. There will be lots of new faces and you will be tempted to compare yourself to others. Don’t do it. Comparison is the tool of the devil. See, the fact is, there is no comparison. Each person is unique and beautiful and created by God who loves them. We come in all shapes and sizes…we excel in different things…we have different gifts but we are all important and vital parts of this world. We were created for a reason and God has great plans for us. We can’t compare ourselves because our journeys are so different. It’s like a giant puzzle…we all look different but without one of us, the big picture would not be complete.

You have to try. You have to try to get good grades, you have to try to make friends, you have to try to get involved, you have to try. You have to put yourself out there to grow. You cannot wait for life to come to you, you have to go out and get it. This can be scary but the more you do it, the easier it gets. Get out there…opportunities await.

Have fun. There is no rush to grow up. Laugh, meet new people, listen and engage. In every situation, there is some way to eek a little fun out of it…even math class. Life is what you bring to it so bring joy.

Believe in yourself. This sounds trite but it’s true. I believe in you, Dad believes in you, God believes in you but what really matters is that you believe in you. When you believe you deserve great things, the universe will conspire to give them to you. When you pray for good things with the expectation that they will happen, God will hear you and answer you.

I’ve heard it said that we should pray BOLD PRAYERS – that we should not ask for a C, we should ask for an A. So here’s my bold prayer for you.

Lord, I ask for great things for my daughter…I do not ask for her to just “get by” and “do okay”. I ask that you bless her abundantly. I ask that you give her strength and courage and determination. I ask that you give her eyes to see her own beauty and the beauty in the world around her. I ask that you put her in situations that are positive and life affirming and that you give her the right words and the right actions to succeed and to thrive. I ask for good people in her life…good friends, kind classmates, and inspiring teachers. I ask for teachers that can light a fire in her heart and soul and make her want to shine. I ask for teachers that understand and encourage and inspire. Be with her. Give her signs to know you are with her. Burrow deep into her heart so she knows she belongs to you. Protect her. I ask for all of these things with the expectation that you will provide. I trust you.

Oh, and Lord, before I end this…thank you. Thank you for the gift of my daughter. Thanks for knowing I need her and she needs me. Thanks for putting us together.

And while I’m at it…please bless and protect all kids starting high school and all moms. This isn’t easy but it is exciting.

See, we are back to the beginning…blessed and terrified.

©2012 Sue Bidstrup, Great Big Yes™ All Rights Reserved

 

Intentional Rest

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It’s July!

In July, Holy Yoga rests.  Ministry wide, we take a sabbath…on purpose. It’s intentional.

And challenging.

I’m tempted to say, “Who? Me? I’m good with resting.  I like to lay around and be lazy.” But the truth is, I may look like I’m resting.  Feet up and coffee in hand but I’m always thinking. Planning. Dreaming. Preparing.

Sometimes our mind is working even when our body isn’t.

This is why Savasana or Corpse Pose in yoga is so challenging for some people.  Our minds may keep racing while we are trying to lay still.  The key word is “trying”.  I tell my yoga students to just let everything go…don’t force anything…surrender…listen for God’s voice.  But that’s tough for some of us, right?  To turn off the “trying”.

When does the surrender come in? When does the rest just happen? How can we do this thing called downtime?

I don’t have the answers.  July for me this year is an experiment.

I’m a little scared I have to admit.  Even in resting I want to achieve.  I want July to be nourishing and rejuvenating.  I have preconceived notions about what it looks like to rest.  I want to rest well.  Even resting brings up striving tendencies.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again…the more I read God’s Word, the more I pray and build a relationship with Jesus…the more I hear His voice telling me to rest.  I feel He is asking me to join Him, to step into what He is already doing…I am invited but this is His show…I can join in but I am not the director.  Continuing in that theme…July is intermission.  It’s time to take a break.  I’m reminded of Jesus and his breaks…the times He took time off to pray and spend time with His Father.

So I will rest. I don’t know what that means and I’m not sure how to do it but I keep going back to His Word that tells me that my salvation is found in rest and stillness and trust. (Isaiah 30:15)

So, no planning for July.

Just presence.  In each moment. Presence.

And trust.

©2014 Sue Bidstrup, Great Big Yes™, All Rights Reserved

No Holy Yoga classes in July.  I look forward to seeing you all again in August! 

Peace on Purpose…Everywhere

It happened again this year.

As we were wrapping up our annual trip to Colorado and we were driving out of Steamboat, the sun was amazing over the mountains and the ground was blanketed in fresh powder but I was crying.  Tears were streaming down my face as we started our trek back home.

It’s so holy in the mountains.

It just feels right, you know?

I love the line in “Rocky Mountain High” where John Denver sings, “Talk to God and listen to His casual reply…” His casual reply…those beautiful snow capped peaks…the trees…the air.  The clear night sky filled with stars scattered like promises.  The magnificence and the simplicity.  It’s soul food.  Every year I go there and I fill up on nourishment for my soul.  And when I leave I fear it’s not enough.

This year when I felt those tears and that familiar knot in my stomach as we drove away, I prayed.  I talked to God.  I told Him that I come to the mountains to find Him and He never disappoints but the thought of returning home to all of my “stuff” and my obligations and the cold and the flat lands and the monotony of it all scares me…I poured out my heart.  And I listened for God’s casual reply…and this is what I heard.

You come to meet me in the mountains because I’m so obvious there. It’s good to have love and strength and power and might in your face like that.  It assures you that I’m real and present and eternal.

My presence is undeniable in the majesty of the mountains and the trees and this beautiful land.  I’m glad you like it.  I’m glad it feeds you.  I led you here to know that “soul rest” is possible and necessary.

But now I lead you home.  I’m there too you know.

I’m in the strong winds that blow across the desolate farmlands.  I’m in the drifting snow.

I’m in your home.  I’m in every nook and cranny.  I’m in your kitchen with you every day and I’m outside your window no matter the weather.  I’m with you when you tuck in the kids and when you lay in bed reading your book.

I’m with you when you walk the dog and when you shovel the driveway.

I’m in the person next to you at the dry cleaners and the one in the car across the street.  I’m in the grocery store parking lot…amid all of the brown slush that has accumulated from all of the ice and snow and salt and traffic.  It’s not always pretty but I’m there.  

I can do beauty.  I can do breathtaking views.  But I’ll go to the valley and I’ll trudge through the muck and I’ll stay steady and present in the monotony of the day to day because that’s where life happens.

Don’t forget me.

Don’t make an annual trip the only time you feel my presence.

I am everywhere.

Create a home in me and you will never be alone.

Soul nourishment is for every day…not just vacations.  Talk to me and I’ll answer.

“Live in me. Make your home in me just as I do in you.”  John 15:4

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This year in Holy Yoga we will have a theme each month.  The theme for this month is PEACE ON PURPOSE.  Join me on Instagram and Facebook and Twitter to follow along with our “Pose a Day” Challenge.  Come to a class!  Make this the year that you try Holy Yoga.  It’s such a beautiful way to stay connected to God, to worship with your body, mind and soul.  I want to meet you and spend time with you.  Let’s encourage each other to stay connected and find Peace on Purpose everyday, everywhere.  Let’s make 2014 our best year yet!

Peace!

©2014 Sue Bidstrup, Great Big YES™  All Rights Reserved